On a day to day basis, I try my best to be upbeat, mentally strong and positive. But occasionally, the smallest of negative influences can trigger my thoughts to go off course. If left, these thoughts can spiral out of control. So I nip them in the bud by having downtime and self-reflecting.
Overexposure to Negative Influences
I am very mindful of the negative influences that I am exposed to and try my best to safeguard my own mental wellbeing. Negative influences come in many forms, one being people. Some people with a negative aura can drain my energy. I do take the time to help people but the reality is, you can only really help people who want to be helped.
Negative influences also come in the form of TV! When I was younger (up to the age of 23ish), I used to watch horror films for the thrill and excitement, but every time the music changed to high pitched fast strings, it would fill me with dread!
Do you know what I used to do when I knew a scary bit was coming?
Cover my ears and close my eyes!!!
When I think about it now, I question why I ever put myself through that! Why did I even bother watching the film?
The fear that came with watching the film would stay with me way after the film had finished. I would then reflect on my own ‘scary’ life experiences.
Just before I became a teenager, I developed a fear of the dark, which was a result of my dad passing away. I used to sleep with the TV on every night (when I could cope alone) or sleep in my mum’s room when my mind just would not shut down. This fear of the dark didn’t get any better until we finally moved house in 2012. But even now in 2018, I still occasionally find myself turning off the light, running to the bed and leaping on, so nothing can grab my leg from under the bed!
So, has my fear of the dark fully gone? NO!
So how do I combat these negative influences and improve my mental wellbeing?
- TV: Being mindful of what I watch
- PEOPLE: Not spending too much time around people who drain my positive energy
- ALCOHOL: Not drinking too much!
- SLEEP: Getting enough of it
- WORK: Managing my workload and not stressing
- FAMILY & FRIEND’S: Making time for them
Weighing up negative influences
Reducing the negative influences around you will contribute to a good mental wellbeing.